I am writing this on Mother’s Day.  The second one since my Mama passed away. It’s been a roller coaster. Sigh… God gave to us this one person with whom we share the deepest possible bond. If you still have your Mama here with you, you probably believe that you understand how deep this bond is. Well, you probably do, but the real depth only becomes apparent when she’s no longer here.

I am a strong woman. Well, I believe that  I am. I  chase my goals incessantly…I don’t cry easily… I work hard…I protect fearlessly…I dream wrecklessly…big dreams that need a spike of bravery to follow up on…let alone achieve.  I am all these things but when faced with the reality that my mother left… I am nothing more than my mother’s child… wanting nothing more than just her, to be held by her and told, ‘worry not my child, Mummy is here’.

I do not mean that fathers mean less, I know first hand how important they are in our lives. My Dad passed a way in 2009, he was an amazing Dad and no day goes by without me thinking deeply about him.

And so,  I write this for every one of you who still has their mother here.  One day she will be gone…and your ability to keep going…to keep functioning…to stay sane when she is no longer here rests squarely on how you handle your relationship with her now …

1. Talk to her everyday

It doesn’t matter how busy you think life is, speak to her everyday.  Actually, as many times a day as you can. Never frown at seeing incoming calls from her even when you think you are too busy to answer. If you must walk out of meetings or get togethers just to pick her calls, please do with no apologies or guilt.  Visit her as often as you can. Not at your convenience but be purposeful about it. Prioritise it. If you haven’t been doing this, today is a good day to start.

2. Never let her ask twice if she doesn’t need to

What you can do before she asks, please do. When she asks and you can do something about it, do it before she asks again. When you can’t, her prayers will open doors of providence. There’s nothing more powerful than a mother’s prayers over her children.

3. Spoil her❤

If possible, make every important day count. Is it her birthday?  Mother’s Day ? her wedding anniversary? Christmas?  Idd? Easter?  She has sacrificed so much for you. A little spoiling goes a long way in boosting her wellbeing.  Even when there’s no anniversary or reason, do random acts of love.

4. Respect her opinion

While you may not agree with her on everything , express this in the most respectful way. Mother-Child relationships can be strained sometimes  and it doesn’t mean you do not love her. It’s all about how you deal with these differences that matters.

5.  She won’t always be here

As difficult as it is to come to terms with the reality that you won’t always have your mother,  it helps to mould your relationship with her. It helps you realise that some differences are not worth keeping, fights are better sorted out sooner than later…  that time lost when not in good terms with her will never be recovered.

Happy Mother’s Day to all❤❤ Mothers are life❤ Mothers are everything❤